I’m 44 year old woman and I’ve been dating a 24 year old boy for 5 months. At first we would just see each other about once a week but then it became more frequent during the summer. The sex is incredible but there isn’t much substance to our conversations.

I took him to Dubai, then for my birthday he planned the entire day and made me dinner. What he did cost about GHc350. So about 2 months ago I asked him where I stood with him and he said he liked me a lot. I said the same. Well I then took him to Cuba for a week. When we got back he said he is going to be very busy with his job and he’s finishing his Masters degree so we would only be able to see each other once a week.

I said no problem. That continued until about two weeks ago he told me he cared too much for me to continue because he felt I was in his way of finding “the one” that he might marry. I told him I liked him enough that I’d wait for him to finish his school. He said that would be too much pressure for him. He kept saying he was confused and that he cares so much about me but “right now” he can’t give me what I’m looking for.
My questions are;

  1. Is he dating someone else I don’t know of?
  2. Should I take all the money I spent on him?
  3. Also am I being stupid dating a 24 year old when I’m 44?

I really want to fight for what rightfully belongs to me. Please advise me